Monday, June 17, 2024

Achieving Team Success!

Teams and teamwork are ubiquitous to almost every aspect of our lives.  Unless you have not entered the workforce as yet, the reality is that in any job you are part of at least one team and sometimes can be on more than one team at any given point in time.  If your career has spanned years and even decades, you have been part of more teams than you might even be able to remember.  These team experiences have either given us fond memories of great teams we have been a part of OR have given us feelings of ongoing regret and nightmares about teams that have drained our souls!

While teams are inevitable their success is not.  Even when we believe ourselves to be in a high-functioning, gold standard team, that success can be fleeting and should not be taken for granted.  Every team will go through change over a period of years, months or even days - change in operating environment or mandate; change in team membership; change in leadership.  Any change - even seemingly small changes - can have a significant impact on the equilibrium of the team with the result being a shift from success to dysfunction.  This shift in capacity and capability of the team can be shocking and surprising but there are steps and preventative maintenance that can help support moving a team from dysfunction to success or supporting high level performance over a period of years.  Bottom line, like any system - organic or mechanical - there is a need for constant investment of time and energy in building and sustaining a team.

How do we then build and sustain a high-performing team?  What are the keys to pay attention to?  What might be some red flags (or green flags) to be aware of?  The first and most basic question to address is whether we do in fact have or are part of a team.  This may seem like a ridiculous question, but it is a core issue to address, for a leader in particular.  All too often we declare a team to be in operation, but we are missing some key qualifiers to justify that claim.  I offer two key criteria that should be addressed to determine whether you have a team or just a group of people in play:

  • Do the collection of people being brought together have any significant, practical and specific goals that they are pursuing in common?

If no common goals exist (other than some vague, large-scale objective) that help to align the work of every team member than does a team really exist?  Can each individual pursue goals or objectives, without positive or negative consequence, that are important or relevant to them alone?  Worse, are the goals being pursued by each individual "team member" in conflict with those of other team members with no incentive or need to promote collaboration?

  • Do the individuals need to rely upon each other to accomplish their goals or tasks?  

Does any team member need inputs, resources, energy and commitment from anybody else on the "team" in order to succeed?  Or do they just hope that other people stay out of their way while they do their work?  If I do not require any support from others and I am not called upon to tangibly support others in their work, this certainly gives the appearance and feel of ships passing in the night.  No interdependence means no team.

If you have answered the above two questions in the affirmative, you can now dig more deeply into setting up a new team for success or helping an existing team to sustain or grow in success.  First foundation to address is to confirm and clarify what, in fact, are the team's goals.  These can be established taking into account what the organization as a whole/senior leadership expects from the team, what you as the leader identify as key goals or expectations of the team, AND through discussion and debate from your team as a whole.  Considering the first two sources of direction for the team, these could be identified as non-negotiables and might fall into the category of regulatory restrictions or obligations, adherence to organizational values and policies, and your own leadership values and expectations.  Be prepared to be clear as to why these parameters are non-negotiable.  The organization and you yourself have every right to set out these types of parameters but be prepared to move beyond a simple "because I said so" if you really want team buy-in.

On the third source of goal confirmation - engaging the team - there is a lot to be said about working through and continuously touching base with/affirming team goals.  This effort implies authentic engagement that promotes understanding of the goals that will ultimately be set, the importance of those goals to each individual team member, appreciation of how individual actions can support (or inhibit) team success, promotes genuine ownership by the team for the goals, and allows each individual team member to dynamically adjust their efforts/tactics as challenges or opportunities arise.  

Beyond confirming these specific goal statements (SMART anyone?) additional work can be done at this time focusing on how the team will make decisions, how the team will balance the concepts of autonomy/empowerment and accountability/collaboration, how and when the team should communicate with each other, and by what values/operating principles the team will guide their actions.  All of this can sometimes be captured in things like terms of reference, team charter, or a code of conduct.  

Strong and successful teams vigorously and authentically engage in the work above on a regular basis.  This is not a one and done effort. Rather, the team should touch base with their shared commitments on at least an annual basis and, in reality, far more frequently.  Through this type of work they continue to reinforce and evolve their shared commitments.  This also sets the stage for ongoing trust building that is necessary to keep a team functioning at a high level.  One of my past colleagues describes trust as "the residue of promises made and kept."  I can't think of a more succinct description and call to action to a team or its individual members. A key element in building trust and a core element of a well-functioning team is through honesty, authenticity and a willingness to be vulnerable with each other in a team.  This is where leadership becomes crucial not only in leading the way in vulnerability but also in creating an environment in which all team members are supported in asking questions, posing challenges, making mistakes and in learning from each other. 

Strong and successful teams - paradoxically perhaps - also welcome and cultivate a culture of challenging each other.  Most of us might question this criterion for team success assuming that conflict is destructive.  And it can be if not understood or managed well.  High performance teams, however, do not look to promote harmony for the sake of harmony.  They appreciate the value of diversity of perspective and believe debate and CONSTRUCTIVE conflict allows them to better interrogate reality and come up with better and best solutions for the challenge or opportunity before them.  The key phrase to be taken from what has just been said is the notion of "cultivating a culture".  Culture for any team will happen naturally and organically.  But it may not evolve in ways that promote effective teamwork.  A leader and a team have to consciously decide what type of culture they want, how to promote mutual accountability, how to achieve their goals including maintenance of strong team relationships, and commit to investing in their preferred team culture on a regular and consistent basis.  Complacency in the face of team success can, in fact, lead to team failure and dysfunction.  Never take a team's success for granted.  Keep investing time and energy!

The final aspect or foundation of success for a team that I want to draw your attention to is how to promote social engagement for the team.  How to have fun!  When you think about our working lives, it is likely that you spend most of your waking time working and engaging with those on your team.  Given that reality, it is my view that enjoyment of the work and team cohesion are critical elements for personal satisfaction and team success.  The most successful teams enjoy each other's company, establish norms and traditions that allow them to develop strong bonds if not friendships, and that promote a commitment to each other's success.  This type of bond or cohesion needs to be actively and purposely facilitated and appreciated as a key element of the day-to-day work of the team (e.g., personal check-in's at each team meeting, use of simple ice-breakers) through to regular team-building sessions.  The purpose is to not only focus on achievement of hard target objectives but also on the health of the team culture.  

Team success is not inevitable.  Calling yourself a team does not make it so.  High-performing teams are glorious and attainable.  Achieving this nirvana pf team success requires disciplined thought, carried out by disciplined people, with disciplined effort (thank you Jim Collins!).  Moreover, this effort is not one and done.  Rather it requires a continued investment of time and energy of the leader and the team.  Team success - It's All About Leadership!

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Greg Hadubiak, MHSA, FACHE, CEC, PCC
President & Founder - BreakPoint Solutions
3rd Generation Canadian Ukrainian
gregh@breakpoint.solutions 
www.breakpoint.solutions 
780-918-0009

Helping leaders realize their strengths and enabling organizations to achieve their potential through the application of my leadership experience and coaching skills. I act as a point of leverage for my clients. I AM their Force Multiplier.

Monday, June 3, 2024

When NOT to use Executive Coaching

I'm a strong advocate for the use of executive coaching.  As an executive coach myself you'd probably expect nothing else.  However, I'm not just speaking as someone who provides executive coaching services but also as someone who has benefited from - and continues to benefit from - using an executive coach.  I've experienced firsthand the power of having an unbiased sounding board and accountability partner work with me.

However, while executive coaching can be one of the most effective ways of accelerating your development as a leader it's not the panacea for all situations or circumstances.  There are in fact times when an individual and an organization should consider other options for addressing leadership or organizational challenges.  I identify some of the circumstances where executive coaching may not be your first choice below.
  1. Executive Coaching in lieu of performance management.  Good executive coaching should not be substituted for good - or bad - management.  I've had a few occasions where I've been approached to undertake a coaching engagement where it's clear that a leader's perspective or that of an organization is that executive coaching will be the last-ditch effort to "salvage" an employee.  At this stage, its often relatively clear that the employee in question is on their last legs.  Unfortunately, they may have arrived at this point because of poor hiring process at the beginning of their tenure, poor expectation setting and communication on the part of their direct superior, or a combination of related factors.  Ideally, executive coaching is more often applied to advancing an organization's high potentials rather than salvaging those an organization no longer has any faith in.  More often than not in these cases I would prefer to coach both the employee as well as their direct supervisor,
  2. Lack of defined outcomes or objectives.   Any good executive coach will seek to establish an understanding of specific goals and objectives for the engagement.  Whether sought out by an individual or secured through organizational endeavor, the quality of a coaching engagement is measurably improved when all parties involved are on the same page when it comes to understanding what success is supposed to look like.  If there are no clear outcomes established - whether at the outset or relatively early in the engagement - then there is a risk of "any destination will do" coming into play.  As with any initiative, being able to define and measure success is key to achieving desired outcomes.   
  3. Client is unprepared to work.  An executive coach is there to challenge your thinking and assumptions, to move you to new levels of performance, and to enhance confidence through action.  But just as it is incumbent upon you (sometimes in partnership with your organization) to define the outcomes it is equally essential that you show up in the coaching session ready to work.  The time spent with a coach should not be akin to pulling teeth - you are addressing your current challenges, taking charge of your future, and you should be prepared to work as hard - and harder - than your coach.  You should not expect your coach to offer up ready-made solutions.  A coach is there to help you discover and execute on your own self-discovered plan of attack.  If you expect your coach to do the heavy lifting you are probably not ready for, nor will you fully benefit, from working with an executive coach. 
  4. Client is unprepared to work - Part II.  The work in a coaching engagement doesn't just or even mostly happen when you are face-to-face with your executive coach.  Your time with your executive coach is designed to develop plans, explore options, test assumptions and commit to change.  While a change in perspective and perception will happen in the executive coaching session, delivery and action happens in between sessions and back at the coal face of your work.  All the best laid plans are only as effective what actually happens when you implement your plans.  If you have no interest in implementing your plans or making time for change in your work it's best not to engage an executive coach.  
  5. Unprepared to Change.  If you are thinking about engaging an executive coach, be prepared to change.  Growth comes only from change.  Change is often or entirely uncomfortable.  If you are only looking for validation or affirmation there are likely other avenues for you to pursue.  Engaging with an executive coach is not about maintenance or just having a great conversation.  You - or your organization - is expecting you to evolve, grow and change as a result of the investment of time and money made in an executive coach.  You should expect that when you choose an executive coach that you will be undertaking new challenges, overcoming anxieties, and assertively progressing forward.  The coaching engagement should make you feel uncomfortable.  Be prepared for and embrace change!
  6. Unprepared to drive the agenda.  Sometimes it's of benefit to think of your executive coach as your co-pilot.  You are in charge of where you need to go.  You define the work for each session.  Again, your executive coach will be there as a guide, a thinking partner, and a challenger, but you are in charge.  You are the leader in your business (and personal life) so be the leader in your own personal development.  Work with your co-pilot to plot the course at each session and, once decided, focus on your path.
  7. Unprepared to be truthful, candid and honest.  Your executive coach is focused on your success.  Period.  In that regard, if you have done the best job possible in selecting your executive coach you've determined a fit does in fact exist, you trust the person in front of you and you are confident in their track record in support of your goals.  So don't beat around the bush.  Time is money and if you are going to move forward assertively be prepared to be vulnerable.  It's in your best interests and your executive coach has no other agenda than what works for you.
  8. Unprepared to own the coaching relationship.  As tough as it might be for some executive coaches, you are the customer and the customer is always right.  Tell your coach - your vendor - what is working for you in the coaching engagement, what's not working and how the work can be changed to be more effective.  If you are not prepared to do that you may be disappointed in the results you get - or don't get. 
Coaching can be a powerful tool in moving leadership forward in a powerful way but much of that success depends on using it in the right circumstances, for the right reasons, and with ownership of the effort on your behalf and that of your organization. 
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Greg Hadubiak, MHSA, FACHE, CEC, PCC
President & Founder - BreakPoint Solutions
gregh@breakpoint.solutions 
www.breakpoint.solutions 
780-250-2543

Helping leaders realize their strengths and enabling organizations to achieve their potential through the application of my leadership experience and coaching skills. I act as a point of leverage for my clients. I AM their Force Multiplier.

Monday, May 27, 2024

Don't Drink the Sand - Redux!

In much of my leadership career - and maybe my life in general - no small part of me hoped and dreamed about achieving formal recognition for the quality of my work. And along the way I did, in fact, achieve awards in my chosen profession. In that regard, I'm probably not that different from many of you. In reality, this desire for recognition is probably a function of our upbringing and our educational system.  We were all graded. We all knew where we stood in our class academically or athletically. If we excelled, we were given ribbons, medals, and even money in the form of bursaries and scholarships. And that recognition felt good.

As a society we continue to translate this award function into our leadership and business environments in the form of our nation's or province's top employers, most ethical companies, top leaders in [pick the profession] and almost any other category that you can think up. These awards are often pursued with incredible vigor by individual leaders and companies. I've even since seen individual leaders suggest, cajole, and coerce their staff or colleagues for that coveted nomination. If and once achieved, those accolades are then heavily marketed as a competitive advantage or even simply as a point of pride.  

And because we are busy people, we place heavy emphasis on the validity and credibility of these ratings or rewards and make decisions as potential customers or staff of these organizations. If such and such experts say he/she/they are best in class, that should be good enough for me should it not?  

Unfortunately, this pursuit of awards and accolades comes with its own problems and opportunity to twist our personal behavior and organizational culture. Based on personal experience, I will suggest that in far too many cases, the emperor is, in fact, wearing no clothes.  

I would encourage all of us to dig a bit deeper into what goes into these "achievements".  I for one have had the misfortune of peeking behind the proverbial curtain and have come away more than a bit disillusioned with what I have discovered. In personal scenarios impacting me, I have discovered that competitors in my profession were not necessarily identified as best in class for their professional skill but rather on the quality of their website! Form over substance! In some cases, my so-called competitors were no longer in practice! 

That's one small example, but there are even more egregious examples. This goes as far as something as prestigious as the Order of Canada. Aside from those who have been officially stripped of such recognition (e.g., Alan Eagleson, Steven Fonyo), I have my own impressions of others who have been so honored. In at least one case I joked - facetiously at the time - that I'd have to be rescinding my Canadian citizenship because of who had obtained this honour.

These examples of personal leadership failures also operate at an organizational level and we simply cannot place blind faith in the view of experts and awards achieved. We have seen far too many examples of spectacular corporate failures that followed on years of being media and business darlings. Example?  In 2001, an American company achieved $90 billion in market capitalization making it the seventh largest company in the USA at the time. For six years running, this same company was ranked by Fortune magazine as America's most innovative company.  

In December 3, 2001, this same company - Enron - filed for bankruptcy.  

Of the many reasons cited for Enron's demise, two stand out for me within the context of my blog topic:  (1) stakeholders/watchdogs overlooked bad behavior as long as they were profiting, and (2) looking to others believing that those others had done their due diligence. Clearly, these reasons were abetted by willful fraud, but for me, the long story short is don't believe everything you see or read on the internet, in newspaper clippings or promotional materials.  

Unfortunately, too many award programs are based on an application process alone. There is limited to no on-site visitation or verification in play. There is no deeper dive into evaluating the veracity of claims made. In some cases, an organization or leader can present documentation on the existence of a policy or program, but it is not required to provide information as to the quality of its implementation or effectiveness. In addition, staff, customers, and other key stakeholders may not be part of validating the leader's or organization's claims. The application might only be as good as the paper it is written on.   

And the motivations of the applicant to win are enormous - prestige, business opportunity, ego. Marketing acumen and writing skill then become more important to success then fact. Form runs the risk of trumping substance. Many of us are already familiar with this reality in other circumstances, most notably the recruitment and selection process. How many times have you seen others - or yourself - won over by a glorious CV and a charismatic presence in an interview, only to have buyer's remorse later? Presentation and pizzazz can only cover up so many sins for so long.  

As I penned this blog I was reminded of an exchange between two characters from the 1995 movie "The American President", which for me encapsulates the challenges we face in sorting the wheat from the chaff and seeing beyond formal awards and what might actually lie beneath:

People want leadership, Mr. President, and in the absence of genuine leadership, they'll listen to anyone who steps up to the microphone. They want leadership. They're so thirsty for it they'll crawl through the desert toward a mirage, and when they discover there's no water, they'll drink the sand. 

Lewis, we've had presidents who were beloved, who couldn't find a coherent sentence with two hands and a flashlight. People don't drink the sand because they're thirsty. They drink the sand because they don't know the difference. 

My request of you? Dig deeper.  Don't be fooled by the pleasant mirage that might be before you. Put in the effort to find out if there really is a glass of water or a glass of sand before you.

Don't drink the sand.
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Greg Hadubiak, MHSA, FACHE, CEC, PCC
President & Founder - BreakPoint Solutions
gregh@breakpoint.solutions 
www.breakpoint.solutions 
780-250-2543

Helping leaders realize their strengths and enabling organizations to achieve their potential through the application of my leadership experience and coaching skills. I act as a point of leverage for my clients. I AM their Force Multiplier.

Tuesday, May 21, 2024

Governance Matters!

Boards of Directors play a crucial role in the health and success of any organization, whether that be in the not-for-profit, public, or private sector.  Outside of being an operating or managing board, where individuals are tasked not just with setting direction but actually getting their hands dirty carrying out day-to-day operational duties, the role of board directors can be summarized at a very high level as providing/supporting long-term vision for their organization, ensuring oversight to the actions and health of the organization, and providing perspectives due to diversity of experiences, skill sets and relationships beyond what any one person would possess.  These expectations can be summarized in three words - Foresight, Oversight and Insight.  Simply said but often far harder to accomplish in practice.

Over my 25+ year leadership career, followed up by another 12+ years in consulting to organizations and boards, I have experienced first-hand how difficult governance can be and how easily a board can go from high performing to significant dysfunction (and back again).  These challenges in governance can lead to a variety of negative outcomes including but not limited to:

  • Board level conflict resulting in lack of effectiveness in decision-making even to the point of paralysis;
  • Board level conflict that negatively impacts board member recruitment and retention;
  • Dysfunctional relationship with CEO and operational leadership;
  • Reputational damage with key stakeholders and public in general;
  • Negative impacts to financial health and sustainability; and
  • Legal challenges up to and including lawsuits between board members and dissolution of an organization.
This is by no means an exhaustive list of negative consequences that can arise from not identifying, paying attention to, and actively managing core governance issues.  

What then are some of the core issues that an organization and Board of Directors needs to attend to?  My suggestions are noted below.

1. Governance Philosophy

An organization has to be clear about what governance means within their own context.  Even if recruits to a board have had previous governance experience that may not directly or appropriately translate to the next governance role.  Moreover, to be truly effective an understanding and appreciation of governance expectations must go well beyond well-articulated written statements and policies.  There must be strong, ongoing efforts to reinforce expectations - and boundaries - of the governance roles for the particular organization.  If the expectations of a board are to provide foresight, oversight and insight what are the appropriate ways in which that is supposed to happen?  When does the board (or board member) start to become too operational and effectively take over or inhibit operational duties?  How does the Board make decisions?  How does the Board evaluate its performance, either collectively or individually?

2. Recruitment and Selection of Board members

One of the greatest challenges that any board faces is that of recruitment and selection of new board members.  Too often proxies for selection of board members can overtake the hard work necessary to identify key attitudes and skill sets necessary to be an effective board director.  What are some of these proxies?  In some cases, it can simply be willingness to serve on the board!  Getting skilled, competent board members is an ever-increasing challenge for many organizations.  The desire to serve, sometimes in a voluntary capacity, against a backdrop of not insignificant time commitments and public/legal expectations, can have many qualified people opt out of a governance opportunity.  In other cases, an organization looks simply at a resume, reputation, or existing relationships (friendships with other board members) as suitable reasons (excuses) to say yes to a new board member.  

Boards have a duty to ensure they are bringing on the right people with the right skills that will adhere to an established governance philosophy; in support of working at the right level of decision-making; with the understanding and intention of acting with a duty of care, loyalty and obedience to the board/ organization; and, with the attitude and commitment that the existing board believes it demonstrates and expects of a new board member.

3. Clarity of Governance Roles

So much to say here and certainly related to the foundations discussed above.  The board needs to be clear about how governance philosophy translates into practical governance work. How does the board carry out its role of foresight?  How does the board contribute to strategy?  Does it build and communicate a set of strategic directions to operational leadership or does it receive and react to what is proposed by operational leadership?  Or is there some balance between those options?  

How does the board exercise oversight?  Does it engage in deep, even supervisory tactics, on a regular basis and even set expectations on remedial actions? Does it direct operational leadership via board membership on a range of committees?  Does it expect and rely solely on what operational leadership provides as updates on progress on strategic directions?  

As board members are usually or hopefully recruited based on their past experiences and or current skills sets (e.g., accountant, lawyer) what are the expectations for how those skill sets are used?  There is always a risk - and even a danger - that an individual or the organization confuse technical skills and competence with how those skills should be used in a way that supports the role of governance.  All involved need to remind themselves that a board member should provide insight, perspectives and ask salient questions that support governance excellence first and foremost.  They have not been recruited to fulfill an operational requirement.  

4. CEO Relationship

More than a few paragraphs are needed to address the board's relationship with its CEO and this could easily be a topic for its own blog or book!  Suffice it to say that the topics already discussed set context for what a board needs in a CEO, how they should go about recruiting for this position and how they manage this relationship going forward.  Clarity of responsibilities, mandate and expectations for the CEO are critical topics for the board to align on in order to provide appropriate direction and support for their most important employee.  

Like any relationship - personal or professional - there needs to be recognition that clarity, communication and mutual commitment are key to success in this partnership.  It is unlikely that every aspect of the relationship can be pre-defined or that every possible scenario that the organization encounters can be anticipated with complete certainty.  The board must be very clear about the nature of the relationship they want and need with their CEO.  How does the Board manage or create trust with their CEO?  What can the Board do to support effective and transparent communication with their CEO?  How will the Board effectively and appropriately monitor and evaluate CEO performance?  What role will the Board take in supporting and developing their CEO?

5. Board Development

The cliche phrase of "the strengths that got you here won't get you there" applies directly to governance excellence.  A board should be as vigilant about its own performance and development as it should be about the performance and development of its CEO and the organization as a whole. Unfortunately, all too often, little attention is paid to supporting board and board member development.  This begins with the quality of orientation and onboarding.  Efforts here can range from one extreme to another - from "welcome aboard" and "learn on the job" to days of being overwhelmed by written policy manuals and strategic plans.  

Beyond this initial phase of learning, well-developed boards should look to integrate learning about the organization's environment aligned with annual and longer-term objectives being pursued. In addition, the board should regularly touch base on their agreed governance framework.  This is not just work for new board members but can act as reinforcement for all directors.  This can include clarifying and reinforcing roles and responsibilities of a board member, the role of the Chair and other officers, and the code of conduct by which the board manages itself.

Finally, there is also some reason for the board to focus on how to enhance its teamwork.  In reality, the board is, in fact, a team like any other in the organization.  Like any other team, there is space and need to understand and leverage the diversity of the team, attend to development and improvement of team skills, and otherwise enhance team capacity in support of board and organizational effectiveness.  This targeted development effort also suggests some reasonable and honest effort at evaluation of board effectiveness.  

In Summary

Governance can be a rewarding endeavor for many if expectations are understood and if necessary diligence and energy are invested on an ongoing basis.  Given the importance of good governance to the success of the organization as a whole, the responsibility for doing it well cannot be underestimated.  If done well, the effort need not be overly burdensome either.  The cost of not taking governance seriously?  Let's just say that the annals of business magazines and documentaries are filled with many case studies of lessons that should be learned with 20/20 hindsight.

It's all about leadership and in this case it is about leadership at the governance level. 

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Greg Hadubiak, MHSA, FACHE, CEC, PCC
President & Founder - BreakPoint Solutions
3rd Generation Canadian Ukrainian
gregh@breakpoint.solutions 
www.breakpoint.solutions 
780-250-2543

Helping leaders realize their strengths and enabling organizations to achieve their potential through the application of my leadership experience and coaching skills. I act as a point of leverage for my clients. I AM their Force Multiplier.



Friday, May 17, 2024

The Power of Belief

In the history of this blog, I have often touched on the concept of how our personal beliefs about ourselves create or limit our actions and path forward.  While I probably have never explicitly focused on the topic I have touched on a range of related issues:

  • Creating a vision of our preferred future state;
  • Understanding our "why" or purpose for doing what we want to do;
  • Documenting and OWNING our strengths and achievements (to at least the same degree that we own our perceived gaps and weaknesses);
  • Documenting and LIVING to our personal and professional values;
  • The power of YOUR choices.
There is probably more to note but, in every case, I have implied that we all can live more powerfully forward if we believe in ourselves and our potential.  Too often my encounters with leaders, aspiring leaders, teams and even organizations, are characterized by a sense of powerlessness to influence and change reality for ourselves.  It seems so much easier - and some would say realistic - to operate from a place of being mere flotsam and jetsam in a world of forces more powerful than us.  We have come to BELIEVE that we are bit players in a world beset by change, both rapid and unpredictable, that leaves us in positions of only being able to react, cope and survive versus driving and thriving DESPITE the capricious nature of the world and people around us. 

I am certain we have all read or heard about the power of positive thinking, about what and how you manifest a preferred future state will set the stage for what you can next achieve. And there are a number of quotes that bear repeating here to reinforce this power of how our beliefs can launch us or lose us on our path:

    "To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream; not only plan, but also believe."
        - Anatole France

    "Men often become what they believe themselves to be.  If I believe I cannot do something, it makes
      me incapable of doing it.  But when I believe I can, then I acquire the ability to do it even if I didn't
      have it in the beginning."
        - Gandhi

    "Whether you think you can, or think you can't, you're right."
        - Henry Ford

How do we come to these beliefs and how do we shift a mind frame that would limit our potential?  Certainly, our lived experience is part of this.  More importantly, however, are the lessons we take away from that lived experience.  The key here though, is we taking away and learning the right lessons from these past experiences?  If I reflect upon my very first leadership role (some 40 years ago!), I am absolutely grateful that my first foray into leadership was immediately followed up by a period of further education and an opportunity to work in a different, much larger organization.  This is where I was exposed to a whole new range of leaders, philosophies and styles.  Without that next experience I know that I would have embedded within me a much harsher set of beliefs around people and what it is to be a successful leader.  I would have also limited my own potential around what I could achieve as a leader.  

One of the other core lessons for me in this leadership journey, and what I see playing out for others, is what we hear and own from those around us.  Everyone needs feedback on their performance and their development as a leader.  As a leader, and potential coach and mentor to those around us, we can have tremendous and outsize impact on the development of those in our circle of influence.  No greater example of this can be found than in the challenge of working with those who would break us down versus building us up.

This fact and reality was recently reinforced to me in a discussion with a leader I had worked with in the past and who has been in a leadership for many years.  I had always believed that she was an accomplished and confident leader.  I would also say that this individual never presented as a shrinking violet!  However, she recently shared with me her experience of working with a leader she described as narcissistic.  The reality she faced over a period of months (and years?) of working with this leader led her to question her competence and ability to do her job.  Her beliefs were shaped by a powerful external force.  Her belief in the views others had about her caused her to doubt and downplay her own previous assumptions about her competence and capabilities.  What ultimately saved her was the intervention of other supportive people who recognized the destruction that was being wrought.  The intervention of these others allowed her to move on from a toxic environment to a place in which she could reset, re-establish her sense of self, and continue to grow in support of herself and others.

What lessons can we take from this story and other similar stories, my own included?  Couple of key lessons I believe are reinforced for me and that I often work on with many of my coaching clients:

  • Don't let others define you/limit your potential.  There will always be others you wish to diminish you for a variety of reasons.  Sometimes it is just to enjoy the exercise of the power they have.  For others, it is only through breaking down others that they find an ability to feel good about themselves.  Others are merely channeling their past experiences of being poorly treated and then determine that "if I have suffered, then others should as well."  Leadership - and even humanity - is not about breaking down, but about building up.  Don't allow yourself to buy into a narrative that is more about them then it is about you. 
  • Document and vigorously own your personal values!  Without this understanding of self, we can often find ourselves pushed out of alignment with our core beliefs, fail to truly appreciate when the actions of others are toxic to our sense of self, and allow us to stay strong and in a position of choice.  This may not make navigating through to a positive end easier but we will have a greater chance of not only surviving challenging times, but also thriving as we retain the power of choice to remain or move on to our next and better opportunity.
  • Document and vigorously own your strengths and achievements.  While we often hear that what got you here may not be as useful in your next role, it is also important to recognize that you have moved, changed and experienced growth over time.  You have taken on past challenges, you have had (positive) impact, and all of those experiences should be a foundation upon which you can build.  Don't let anyone else take that away from your or diminish your capabilities.
  • Maintain and invest in a strong network of support.  In past blogs I have said that leadership is a team sport.  The same holds true for life in general.  All of us - regardless of age and experience - need a strong and committed network of friends, family, peers, and colleagues to support us on our personal and professional journey.  None of us can be as successful or fulfilled as we want or can be living life as the lone ranger.  Coaches and mentors can be part of this solution for you as well.  These external voices - people who are committed to your success - can be sounding boards and thinking partners to help you right size the issues you are facing, help you to better evaluate reality and circumstances, and position you to learn the right lessons AND make better decisions in alignment with your values and purpose.
Long story short, ground your beliefs in a strong foundation of who you are, touch base with your strengths and achievements on a regular basis, appreciate the growth you have achieved over time, understand that you have overcome challenges in the past and that those successes position you for overcoming the next challenge, dream big (or bigger), and build a team that supports realization of a potential that does lie before you.  

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Greg Hadubiak, MHSA, FACHE, CEC, PCC
President & Founder - BreakPoint Solutions
3rd Generation Canadian Ukrainian
gregh@breakpoint.solutions 
www.breakpoint.solutions 
780-250-2543

Helping leaders realize their strengths and enabling organizations to achieve their potential through the application of my leadership experience and coaching skills. I act as a point of leverage for my clients. I AM their Force Multiplier.