Monday, September 25, 2023

The Challenge - and Paradox - of Expectations

One of the key drivers of effective leadership revolves around the notion of expectations. What do I mean by expectations? within a leadership frame of reference?

First of all, you have expectations about being a leader, what that means in general terms, and what you believe or expect about yourself as a leader. Perhaps you have aspired to be in a leadership role since before you entered the formal workforce. Perhaps your expectations of what it means to be a leader come from formative experiences in school or sports. No doubt, you have also likely had your share of good and bad leaders, and those experiences have helped shape what you now expect of yourself as a leader.


Our formative experiences can lead us to believe that becoming a leader should result in a tremendous increase in power and privilege. Alternatively, we may enter into leadership roles with a great deal more humility and anxiety if we recognize that increased scope of responsibility comes with new obligations and challenges. 

Our expectations of ourselves can be sources of motivation and inspiration, AND a source of frustration and disappointment. To succeed, progress, and move forward, there is value in setting aspirational and stretch goals. In this case, we are setting the bar high with the belief that with strong commitment, effort, learning, and development, we can meet the standard we have set for ourselves. We seek to inspire ourselves to a new level of performance.

The caution around these expectations is to ensure they are grounded in reality and don’t – due to any source of setback – become a source of punishment and demotivation. “Failure” in this case must be objectively assessed for the learning it might impart to us, allowing us to either right size expectations of ourselves or re-invest in the original goals.

Second, as you were placed into one or more leadership roles throughout your career, you also know that you and your organization or boss had some expectations of each other. If you are fortunate, these expectations were made crystal clear. However, if you are like most of us, it is more likely the case that you and your boss discovered – perhaps painfully – that there were unclear or even unstated expectations around performance, commitments, and obligations of your leadership position.

A final aspect of expectations in play comes from the team you are placed in charge of and the peers in leadership you will be working with. Each of these individuals has expectations of what you and your leadership should look like, what they expect you to deliver for them, and how they expect you to treat them. The greater the level of leadership responsibility you take on, the greater the number of eyes will be on you, and the greater number of expectations there will be to juggle.

With those people external to you, the diversity of their expectations will, in fact, be as different and as complex as the number of individuals you interact with. What each of your followers, stakeholders, and constituents deems of value or importance to them can range widely. For example, some will expect you to

·       place greatest emphasis on doing what is right for the people of the organization (e.g., how can we grow and support their success and development?);

·       focus on bottom line results (however that might be defined), seek to drive performance, and recognize those individuals who meet and exceed targets;

·       set up best-in-class systems, processes and structures that ensure the right thing gets done, in the right way, on a consistent basis; and

·       be an incredibly inclusive leader, driven to get input from all, believing that the best solutions are created through consensus.

I have only touched the surface of these externally driven expectations. Depending on how front-facing you are to your customers, clients, or stakeholders, a whole range of other perspectives come into play.

And let’s add one more variable into the mix. Expectations are never static; they are constantly changing and evolving. Just when you have think you have everything crystal clear and your engine is humming in perfect efficiency, a wrench is thrown into the system. For example:

·       Your external business environment changes leading to a need for change in priorities for your organization.

·       Your boss changes. Now you have to adjust to a new style of leadership and new goals to decipher and deliver on.

·       Your team changes over time – they grow and develop, perhaps move on to new roles, or the team expands and contracts. That means your team’s expectations about how they are led and what you need to do for them shifts.

·       You yourself also grow and develop and look to have different personal and professional needs met. You might be looking for more or new challenges. Even your personal life circumstances might change and cause you to reconsider what your leadership path should now be.

Regardless of the reason for change, expectations will continuously shift over time. As a leader, you will have to evaluate and be attentive to the shifting sands of expectations from a variety of sources. 

Expectations can be motivating.  Expectations can be challenging.  Expectations are never static.  

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Greg Hadubiak, MHSA, FACHE, CEC, PCC
President & Founder - BreakPoint Solutions
3rd Generation Canadian Ukrainian
gregh@breakpoint.solutions 
www.breakpoint.solutions 
780-250-2543

Helping leaders realize their strengths and enabling organizations to achieve their potential through the application of my leadership experience and coaching skills. I act as a point of leverage for my clients. I AM their Force Multiplier.

Monday, June 12, 2023

It's All About You - Self-Leadership

In past posts I have talked about quiet quitting and the great resignation. The perspective I've taken has focused on what organizations could do/might do to address the realities of the evolving job market and labor force. What I haven't done is look to advise individuals - leaders or staff - in why they might choose to leave an organization. Nor have I actively encouraged resignation or a change of scenery. Why change tactics now? Well, the topic resonates more in the past few weeks as several of my acquaintances have realized that their commitment to a current employer is not being reciprocated OR, in some cases, they have been shown the door after years of dedicated and quality service. While many organizations often tout a perspective that human resources are the organization's greatest asset, their actions often drown out stated commitments.  

These recent experiences have also caused me to reflect back on my own re-introduction to the labour force back in 2012 (and the start of my coaching/consulting career). I've gained a lot of experience and perspective over the past dozen years, not the least of which is informed by my own Core Strengths Assessment results. What particularly resonates for me are my Overdone Strengths - things I do when things are not going well for me, perhaps when anxious or in some form of conflict, but efforts I engage in with the hope/expectation of still producing a positive outcome.  My top three Overdone Strengths seem to particularly resonate:

Self-Sacrificing: being so supportive that you give up your own interests and wishes for others

Blind: being so loyal that you overlook or ignore problems with plans or people

Stubborn: being so persevering that you justify your course of action despite others' views or preferences

I could go on, but the listing of the top three Overdone Strengths suggest to me (in retrospect) that I continued to invest far too much into a job and an organization when all objective evidence was suggesting that my efforts were in support of a losing battle. I failed to appreciate that my priorities were no longer (if they ever were) the organization's priorities.  

In the past I have suggested that - as individuals and leaders - we have to engage in appropriately selfish behaviour. The context for those previous posts related to the need to continuously invest in oneself and take time to recharge one's batteries. My advice in this post is perhaps more bold and assertive on YOUR BEHALF. Don't make the same mistakes that I did in assuming that your organization or your leader is as committed to your personal success or the same goals/values as you are. Be vigorously objective in always assessing whether your needs and priorities are really being met or stand a chance of being met. My specific advice - and thoughts to continuously review for yourself on a regular basis - is as follows:

One: Make Yourself and Your Needs a Priority. This first presumes that you have actually thought about and articulated/documented what is important to you and what your life/career priorities are. By doing this you can continually evaluate current and future fit with an employer. You may also find by this articulation that you draw new opportunities to yourself.

Two: Recognize When You Are Being Used (Rather than Valued). Objectively assess how often your needs and expectations are balanced against your leader's needs and expectations. If there is a decided imbalance at play and you continue to defer to the "big picture" at your expense, I suspect you will increasingly feel disengaged and de-energized.  

Three: Document Your Value. In many of my coaching engagements, one of the key approaches that helps an individual take on new challenges is owning their strengths and accomplishments. While we easily identify our perceived weaknesses, we rarely put as much emphasis on what we are skilled at. We might be tackling imposter syndrome here or just simply helping you own the possibilities beyond your current state of affairs.  If you don't see your strengths and possibilities being leveraged in the current state, it might be time to move on. 


Four: Invest Energy to Get Energy. Exhaustion at the end of the day should also be evaluated as a sign of the need to move on. If your exhaustion seems to arise out of feelings of being frustrated, disrespected, or defeated, then it's time to consider a move. If energy invested leaves you feeling exhausted from the effort but fulfilled and inspired, then hope remains. Pay attention to what your heart, mind, body, and soul are telling you. 

Five: Manage Nostalgia. It can be tough to move on, especially if there have been some good times and major accomplishments in your past. This experience directly relates to the feelings of loyalty and blindness that I noted for myself earlier. Our past experiences can cloud our judgement about the current and expected state of affairs. Challenge yourself to objectively test current reality. 

Six: Envision a Positive Future. The phrase "better the devil you know" comes to mind here as you consider a new future and possibilities. Paradoxically, I believe I was lucky in being involuntarily introduced to the marketplace. While my choice to move into consulting and then coaching was not certain, I'm pretty confident that I would have been far more hesitant to chart a dramatically different path if not pushed forward. Looking back it was clear that I lived in a lot of pain for several years and that my hesitancy to shift was based on lack of clarity of future success.  Upon reflection I can honestly say - Trust Yourself and Own your Strengths. You are capable of more and deserve the best. 

Seven: Remain Flexible and Seek Out Allies. Keep a vision in front of you and trust in better.  However, be prepared that its actual form and timing may not proceed in as linear a fashion as you might hope. In similar fashion, don't expect that yours can be or should be a solo journey. Be prepared to learn from others and be prepared to be helped by others - practice vulnerability and humility in the same way that you likely started your career so many years ago. 

Eight: Be Clear About What You Want. This tactic might be informed by previous suggestions, but I want to remind you that as you consider the next opportunities, don't be shy about being clear about what your are looking for or need from the next role. Don't settle. You don't have to. Look for the next thing that is truly your next best thing. Your prospective boss or organization certainly wants the best fit - you should apply the same lens to them. 


Nine: Be Patiently Impatient. Success and change may take time. Prepare for that. Try to find a way to persevere through change. Develop and foster new networks and new opportunities. Don't be afraid to experiment. Keep moving forward while you evaluate. I have often noted that it took me at least a couple of years to find my stride in my new career and not a small amount of success came from dogged determination (and perhaps not a little masochistic behaviour!). Keep putting yourself out there on the foundations of your strengths, vision, and value. 

Ten: Be High Maintenance. What do I mean by that!? This might in fact be a summary of all that I have said before. Be clear about what you are looking for and keep holding others (leaders, organizations) to that standard. As already noted, you deserve the best. Don't settle. Be bold and be confident. Look for an opportunity that resonates with your strengths and values. Recognize that the contract you have entered into may change over time. If that becomes the case, make sure you rinse and repeat these 10 tactics.  

I recognize that these "10 commandments" may seem like a tall order. However, at the end of the day, I believe that application of this advice will support not just your career success, but also your level of fulfillment with your life as a whole.  

It's all about you.  It's About Leadership.  In this case, it's about self-leadership.

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Greg Hadubiak, MHSA, FACHE, CEC, PCC
President & Founder - BreakPoint Solutions
3rd Generation Canadian Ukrainian
gregh@breakpoint.solutions 
www.breakpoint.solutions 
780-250-2543

Helping leaders realize their strengths and enabling organizations to achieve their potential through the application of my leadership experience and coaching skills. I act as a point of leverage for my clients. I AM their Force Multiplier.



Friday, March 10, 2023

The Addictive Power of Work

For much of my leadership career (1986 to 2012), I devoted a significant amount of time, energy, and effort to being a good leader and on trying to go from being a good leader to a great leader.  The consequence of that commitment was there were far too many work days that started early and ended late, and far too many weekends where downtime equated to a bit of sleeping in (potentially) before getting back to work at home.  If I am honest with myself, the real consequences of that work addiction were poor physical and mental health along with not insignificant damage done to family's well-being. 

Why start to discuss this concept of work addiction when so much of the public discourse has been on quiet quitting and the great resignation?  I do believe, in fact, that these polar opposite responses stem from a similar desire to achieve some form of meaning in our lives.  Some people double down on work at the expense of all else, believing it will help them attain their brass ring.  Others choose a different path and a complete reset of life's priorities.  More recently, what brought this topic back to my attention was the news story of the Twitter executive (Esther Crawford) who was previously seen in a viral photo sleeping on the floor at headquarters as Elon Musk took over the company.  Ultimately, that commitment and loyalty (delusion?) was not enough to maintain her status in the company.  She was recently fired.  

Interestingly enough, Crawford's take on her termination wasn't cause for regret or immediate self-reflection on what had been sacrificed for this total commitment to career.  Rather she took to social media days after her termination to do battle with critics who had noted that she got the axe despite her loyalty to her boss and her job.  "The worst take you could have from watching me go all-in on Twitter 2.0 is that my optimism or hard work was a mistake," Crawford tweeted.  "Those who jeer & mock are necessarily on the sidelines and not in the arena," she said, referencing a famous quote by Theodore Roosevelt.

Time will tell whether Crawford has any change of heart.  She might not.  She could soon jump into the next business or entrepreneurial venture that feeds her.  For as many people that are looking for work-life balance, we still have a significant number that drive themselves forward relentlessly in business or career. I'm coaching some of those people now!  People who don't believe that "no" or "not now" is an appropriate answer.  People who believe that the current situation of overwork is temporary and with one more push, the work boulder can be pushed over the hill.  People who look around them and believe leadership and business success equals more time and more time and more time invested at the coal face of work (even at the expense of self and family).

What I have also observed over the past few years as well - not incidentally related to our COVID-19 reality and the hybrid work environment -  is technology (Zoom-based meetings, office technology readily available in the home) has significantly blurred the lines between work and private life.  We get up and we can immediately start work.  No need to commute.  We can "manage" back-to-back meetings without having to worry about walking from office space to meeting room.  We can extend our hours deep into the evenings... well... just because we can.  

However, what my clients are discovering, much like I discovered many years ago, is work is a relentless machine.  It will take all you give to it and it will still leave you feeling like there is so much more yet to be done.  You are never finished and never can finish.  

But there are many like Esther Crawford who will not or cannot slow the pace.  They may actually be suffering from an addiction to work.  Workaholics is a term that has been around forever, but in days past we might not even have called it that.  Excess work was just seen as the normal part of career advancement. But what drives this behavior?  What makes this type of pace an addiction?  I offer a few thoughts below.

Expectations of Self/Others.  Some of us are very goal driven.  I include myself in this category.  Whether as part of our upbringing or based on our earliest experiences of work, we have developed an expectation of self that success requires drive and sacrifice to get ahead.  We have a goal in mind, an end to be achieved.  We also often wrap up achievement of career or business goals with our worth or value as a human being.  How joyous and rewarding to call myself CEO, or COO or VP.  We crave to introduce ourselves to others with these titles.  I know I took great pride in those titles.  In some cases this drive for self-worth is wrapped up in what we see others achieving, assessing ourselves against them (e.g., "hey at age 35 they are here, I'm falling behind, better get moving"), and looking to catch up or speed ahead.  We strive on the competition and the win.

Don't Let the Team Down.  In other cases, and certainly something I have heard recently from more than one of my coaching clients, is an intense desire to not let one's team down.  This can operate when an individual is a member of a team or as a team lead.  My clients often express a desire to protect their teams from overwork, they look to shelter them from challenging situations, and so forth.  But this all comes at a personal cost.  The spirit of altruism results in the individual team member or leader carrying a load that is not sustainable long term.

I've Got Something to Prove!  At first blush this might seem to be directly related back to the expectations noted up above.  And to some extent it is.  However, whereas the former examples are driven a bit more from a positive intent (e.g., I believe I can make it if I work hard enough), what I am talking about here is a drive to diminish or eliminate any sense of inadequacy one might feel about work or leadership capabilities.  This is the chip on the shoulder mentality.  If you believe others have counted you out or have considered you unworthy, your work drive is intended - come hell or high water - to prove the bastards wrong! I too have had some of this as my motivating force for overwork. 

Being Part of the Inner Circle.  What could be more enticing than to "arrive" and get an opportunity to socialize and partner with a variety of other prestigious leaders and business people!  Each of us, in our own way, wants to be part of a tribe, and wouldn't it be great to be in the biggest and best tribe in whatever way we define it.  We can then further justify our work addiction, attendance at more functions, attendance at more meetings and networking functions from a standpoint that networks build career and business opportunities, advance the interests of our teams, and help build up prestige for our organization.  We are altruistic leaders, working on behalf of the masses, coupled with a healthy (or unhealthy?) dose of self-advancement. 


Pure Adrenaline. The final thought I will put to this is work addiction is like any other addiction.  Tolerance is a reality.  When our careers first start, we have youthful energy and enthusiasm.  We are learning the ropes.  We take on more responsibility and workload.  And if you do well at your tasks, your reward is to typically get more responsibility and more workload.  And the cycle continues.  Over time, like a drug addiction, our brain and body grow accustomed to a certain level of stimulation and we find we can do more and - more importantly - we need more of that stimulation to remain engaged and alive.  The biggest flag in this regard is we have a hard time disconnecting from work.  We feel much guilt if we knock off from work at a normal time or feel more than a bit twitchy when going on vacation.

How do you know if you have a work addiction?  You could look at some of the notes above to conduct some form of self-diagnosis.  Am I actually working more than a regular workday/week on a regular basis?  Am I often doing work or responding to emails at all hours of the day or evening?  Do I believe that one more hour, or one more day, or one more week at a relentless pace will get me over the hump - only to see the next mountain rise up before me?  

More recently I discovered an interesting assessment tool that directly focuses on work addiction.  The Bergen Work Addiction Scale uses seven basic criteria to identify work addiction, where all items are scored on the following scale: (1) Never, (2) Rarely, (3) Sometimes, (4) Often, (5) Always:

  • You think of how you can free up more time to work
  • You spend much more time working than initially intended
  • You work in order reduce feelings of guilt, anxiety, helplessness or depression
  • You have been told by others to cut down on work without listening to them
  • You become stressed if you are prohibited from working
  • You place less emphasis or priority on hobbies, leisure activities, exercise and family/relationships because of your work
  • You work so much that it has negatively influenced your health. 
Scoring "often" or "always" on at least four of the seven items may suggest you have a work addiction.  The additional trick as it relates to the self-assessment is the degree of honesty you can muster to complete the evaluation.  You might also find it interesting to compare and contrast your self-assessment results with others as part of a 360 process. 

A weighty topic to be sure and likely not one with any easy answers for many of us.  We can choose different paths.  We can be different leaders.  I just ask you to choose wisely and consciously.  Every path has risks and rewards.  It's all about leadership!  And it might also be about your personal well-being. 

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Greg Hadubiak, MHSA, FACHE, CEC, PCC
President & Founder - BreakPoint Solutions
3rd Generation Canadian Ukrainian
gregh@breakpoint.solutions 
www.breakpoint.solutions 
780-250-2543

Helping leaders realize their strengths and enabling organizations to achieve their potential through the application of my leadership experience and coaching skills. I act as a point of leverage for my clients. I AM their Force Multiplier.

Monday, March 6, 2023

The Power of Appreciation

In the past several years, as COVID-19 has cut its swath through our lives, as technological advances have made jobs and tasks redundant, and as expectations for performance have increased (in terms of expectations from customers and employers), the phenomena of quiet quitting and the great resignation have gained momentum.  In many ways, however, the challenge of building up, maintaining, and sustaining employee commitment and engagement has been with us since well before 2020.  Individuals like Simon Sinek have made their mark for over 10 years talking about leadership and how to engage followers. The concept of employee engagement is now big business, but it has been so for many years, if not decades.  Companies like Gallup charge big fees for helping organizations evaluate employee engagement.  Ideally, these same companies help translate this data into strategies to change the lived experience of staff.


Why, with all this background, knowledge, and effort, are we still failing so miserably, in not only growing engagement with our people but, in very many circumstances, continuing to lose ground on employee loyalty and commitment?  Why do we continue to see so much movement and searching on the part of employees for something more and better?  What are people looking for?

Let's start by looking at the Gallup 12 questions that form the heart of their engagement assessment.  A variety of other tools and questions could serve just as well as a starting point, but the Gallup questions have some degree of familiarity in the marketplace and are simple to understand and apply:

  1. Do you know what is expected of you at work? 
  2. Do you have the materials and equipment to do your work right? 
  3. At work, do you have the opportunity to do what you do best every day? 
  4. In the last seven days, have you received recognition or praise for doing good work? 
  5. Does your supervisor, or someone at work, seem to care about you as a person? 
  6. Is there someone at work who encourages your development? 
  7. At work, do your opinions seem to count? 
  8. Does the mission/purpose of your company make you feel your job is important? 
  9. Are your associates (fellow employees) committed to doing quality work? 
  10. Do you have a best friend at work? 
  11. In the last six months, has someone at work talked to you about your progress? 
  12. In the last year, have you had opportunities to learn and grow?
I have purposely highlighted a few of the questions, particularly since they have resonance with my work and how I have been impacted by the power of appreciation.  Most relevant in this case are questions 4, 5 and 7.  Now, certainly the type of work I do - executive coach and management consultant - is very different than working within an intact team or large organization.  Often, by the very nature of the work, I am a team of one acting both as boss and staff.  But in other ways, as I seek to bring value to those I work with, I often develop a level of attachment and commitment to their goals that starts to mimic being a member of a team. 


In the past few weeks, several events had significant - and unexpected - impact on me to the extent that I had strong, and sometimes an uncontrollable, emotional response.  

Situation 1: As I was facilitating a workshop on governance, one of the participants marveled at my "...phenomenal ability to synthesize diverse perspectives and set foundations for teams to deliver maximum impact."  This was from a very accomplished and experienced leader in their own right who I had essentially just met.  They had no reason to artificially inflate my ego.  They had seen good and bad consultants and facilitators throughout their careers.

Situation 2: In this very same session, and out of the blue, one of my consultant colleagues texted me this simple message, "Have a good day.  Thank you for all your support and guidance." This was a message that came early on a Saturday morning, without context and completely unsolicited. 

Situation 3: Over the past number of weeks I have been acting as practicum lead coach to a team of five coaches as they explored the concept of team coaching.  At the end of each learning session, individual team members had a chance to lead a team coaching scenario.  My role was to support them in their learning and give them feedback in the moment and post-session.  At the end of the last session, the team engaged in an appreciation shower (as they called it).  Again, not something I was expecting but what I heard moved me to tears - generous, no-nonsense, highly observant, role model, brought ease to the work, constructive not critical.  There was even reflection back to one individual's experience with me from my leadership career which ended in February 2012!

Why do I highlight these experiences?  Because it had powerful impact.  It highlighted how important non-monetary factors were in encouraging ongoing effort, loyalty and commitment.  Would I come back and work with these people again?  Most assuredly.  


What made these comments so impactful?  What can we glean from my experience that you might copy in your leadership roles?  How could you practice effective appreciation, reward and recognition to promote employee retention?  Here is what I think mattered to me and might matter to others.

Don't script your appreciation.  Don't look to fulfill a quota of thank yous, appreciation or reward, and recognition. Don't make appreciation a check-box exercise.  Without a doubt, the appreciation and validation shown to me from the examples above was made more powerful because it was so unexpected.  

Make it genuine and authentic.  As I alluded to above, all of the comments and praise given to me came across as highly genuine and authentic.  I can't capture the tone of what I heard from people through their verbalization of what it was like to work with me.  All I can say was the appreciation for the work I had done with them oozed throughout the conversation. 

Make it specific.  The comments and feedback given to me were very specific.  There were no generalized thank yous.  There were no clichéd statements you might typically get in other circumstances. The comments received were very specific and directly related to the work I was doing.

Make it timely.  The compliments I received were very immediate.  In my role as coach for several organizations, I may not get feedback on my coaching engagements until months after a coaching engagement has concluded.  In the consulting world, some of the only ways you know you have hit the mark is if a client organization decides to invite you back for a repeat performance - but that may only come several months later. 

Understand your recipient.  This is probably a harder one to capture and translate into other circumstances.  What I can say is the comments from my clients and colleagues left me feeling validated and that my opinions, perspectives and guidance were valued.  What I was trying to do with my clients was actually seen in action by my clients and valued!  They saw me and they appreciated me.

Those are my takeaways for how you might approach employee reward and recognition efforts in your leadership and in your organization.  None of what I note above is about compensation.  In fact, in two of the three examples, there was little to no compensation involved.  The third circumstance was from work with a not-for profit entity (so no private jets, concierge service, or purple M&M's for my turn down service). 

I hope you will find value from these personal insights and reflections and I hope you can tailor your future work with your staff guided by some of these perspectives.  Without a team there is no leadership and part of leadership has to be about genuine appreciation and recognition.

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Greg Hadubiak, MHSA, FACHE, CEC, PCC
President & Founder - BreakPoint Solutions
3rd Generation Canadian Ukrainian
gregh@breakpoint.solutions 
www.breakpoint.solutions 
780-250-2543

Helping leaders realize their strengths and enabling organizations to achieve their potential through the application of my leadership experience and coaching skills. I act as a point of leverage for my clients. I AM their Force Multiplier.